DA LI IMATE OSEĆAJ DA VAS NEŠTO OD OVOGA KONTROLIŠE? / DO YOU HAVE FEELING THAT SOMETHING HAVE YOU IN CONTROL?

U životu često stanemo kada dođemo do neke prekretnice. To je najčešće oko Nove Godine i rođendana. Tada uglavnom preispitujemo naš život. Šta smo uradili, šta nismo i uvek se postavlja pitanje – ZAŠTO JE TO TAKO? Šta nas je dovelo tu gde jesmo? Ono što morate da znate jeste da sve što jeste i što niste postali, uradili… sami ste odgovorni za to. Iako to znate u dubini duše možda ćete nekoga okriviti za neki uspeh ili neuspeh. Najčešće se kao krivci navode:

LJUDI

NOVAC

STVARI

PROŠLOST

MISLI

Ipak na sve faktore treba gledati kao na primer, model, koji mi možemo da prihvatimo ili NE u zavisnosti od naših želja i ciljeva.

Navešćemo primere:

1. Roditelji možda žele da vi završite medicinu i postanete hirurg. Ali ako vi imate želju da postanete najbolji slikar na svetu i imate taj talenat, svi ljudi koje izlečite neće vam doneti zadovoljstvo kao slika koju nacrtate na parčencetu salvete dok žurite da pojedete doručak jer vas čekaju na operaciji.

2. Kao hirurg zarađivaćete mnogo. Imaćete za sve i svašta i bićete u stanju da radite mnogo više nego što treba za sve veći i veći novac. Novac je samo sredstvo nikada ne bi trebao da vas kontroliše i da vam bude cilj.

3. Ne dozvolite sebi da gomilate stvari godinama. Bacajte i poklanjate ono što ne koristite. Nekome će koristiti a kod vas će izgubiti na vrednosti. Šta ima veze ako vam je dete polomio skupu vazu ili luster? To su samo stvari i one su tu da suže nama a ne da im robujemo.

4. Šta je bilo, bilo je. Ako ste hirurg koji je studirao 9 godina da bi bio tu gde jeste samo zbog roditelja, zao mi je ali prihvatite to. Niste to radili zbog njih. Oni su vam dali predlog koji ste vi prihvatili. Da mozda bi se oni ljutili dan, dva, mesec dana.. ali kasnije bi sve bilo ok. Ako ste uradili nešto pomirite se sa tim. Izvucite najbolje iz toga. Ne kukajte jer prošlost ne možete da primenite, ali budućnost možete.

5. Ono si što misliš. Kakve su ti misli takav ti je život. Sada zamislite jednog hirurga koji kreće na operaciju nervozan jer se boji da li će uspavati pacijenta kako treba. Razmišlja da li je skalpel dovoljno oštar i šta ako pogreši rez. Šta ako pacijentu da pogrešnu terapiju… šta ako… Užas zar ne? Da li bi takav hirurg mogao da radi duže od par meseci ili bi poludeo na kraju? Ne dozvolite mislima da vam kontrolišu sadašnjost. Usmerite ih na lepe stvari.

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In life we often stop ourselves when we are in front of some milestone. It usualy happens when it’s New Year or birthday. Then we think about our life. What we did, what we missed and there is always a question – WHY? What bring us here? You have to know that everything you are, you did and you become the only one you should be proud or angry is yourself. Inside you already knew that, but sometimes you alow yourself you blaming other people or thing for your success or failure. The most common causes are:

PEOPLE

MONEY

THINGS

PAST

TOUGHTS

On this you need to look as an example or model which you can accept, change or reject depending on your goals and wishes.

We will give you examples

1. Your parents may want for you to finish medicine and become successful surgeon. But if you have talent for art and you love painting all those people which you heal will not bring you happines as much one little napkin hand paint when you eat breakfast while you wait for that important operation.

2. As surgeon you will earn lots of money. You will be able to give yourself lots of thing and you could start working much more to earn more because you think you need more. You should never give money to control you or to be your goal. Money is just resource.

3. Don’t alow yourself to be bared alive with thing you a need some day in future. Clean your house and put in a garbage everything you don’t need or give someone as present things that are usable but you don’t need them. Maybe someone will use it.

4. What it was it was and you can’t change the past. Simple as that. If you are surgeon who learn to become that 9 years or more just because your parents wanted that I’m sorry to hear that. But you didn’t do that because of them. They asked you to do that and you accepted! It’s only up to you. You parents didn’t work hard to pass that exam. You did it! If you didn’t wanted you just needed to say that! Yes, maybe they will be angry at you. But that may last a few days or months, but one day they will get over with that. It’s your life and your decision. If you don’t like it. Change it.

5. You become what you think. Your toughs create your reality. Now imagine one surgeon who start some open heart process with shaking hand and nervous toughts. He thinks about patient, Wil, he be ok, will he gave him right terapiju, will they slept him right, will he woke up… what if what if… Horor right? Will that surgeon last in his profession more than few month? In the end he will finish as a patient on psychology. Don’t alow your toughts to create your reality as they want. Use them to become what you want. Think about gold things and good things will come to you. Control your mind.

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